As a child, I didn’t think much about who Santa was. I didn’t spend a lot of time considering how he might show up in others’ homes. But as my daughter barrels toward age 3 in January, I’ve realized we have to decide who Santa is going to be in our house — and soon.
In my house growing up, Santa brought all of our gifts — from the wrapped packages under the tree to the stockings stuffed with individually wrapped toys, gold coins, and other little items we needed. (There was one gift each year that came specifically from our dad.)
It wasn’t until I spent my first Christmas morning with my husband’s family that I even considered things could be different. At my in-laws’ house, Santa brings the stockings (and he has a strong bend for dental hygiene). Otherwise, Christmas gifts come from a variety of people (and places). Some gifts are from Santa, some are from different family members. That Christmas, the family lake house, the family dog, and even our condo in South Boston gave us some gifts! Each label displayed a cheeky joke, usually giving a hint to the gift itself or the intention of the gift.
Seeing this new way of giving gifts had me wondering if there are as many variations on Santa as there are families! So I asked around, polling friends to learn what Christmas gift giving looks like in their homes. In one friend’s house, Santa brings a few small gifts, but the big ones are from the parents. In another, Santa doesn’t exist at all, and Christmas gifts simply come from the parents. In other homes, Santa is more intentional, bringing specific gifts along a particular theme.
Omnipresent Santa
Middle-of-the-road Santa
Predictable Santa
In some families, there is a pattern in the gift giving, and this predictability has its benefits — consistency and constraints limit the amount of “stuff” a kid gets each Christmas. Especially with siblings, this method allows for equal gift giving with a clear rationale. For example, Santa brings everyone a book, an article of clothing, and an item to play with. Each gift can be tailored to a child’s interests and passions, but there is a level playing field — and sanity is better preserved for the parents.
I’m looking forward to figuring out who Santa is in our house and finding our family’s unique blend of whimsy, wonder, and gratitude that represents our values and celebrates the season!