Two Truths and a Lie — the Family Dinner Table Version

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The mad rush from daycare pickup to bedtime just about does me in some days. Everyone’s “hangry,” thirsty, and tired all at once. So by the time we sit down to actually eat, it’s time to talk about something other than what someone needs.

Enter “Two Truths and a Lie” — the family dinner table version. Also known as “The Game” in my house.

It’s a game I’m sure you’ve played at some point or another, either with a group of daring friends or as a professional icebreaker. I presented it to my kids like this: During our family dinner time, tell everyone two things about your day that really happened, and one thing that’s not true — your “silly.” The rest of us get to guess which is your silly, or the thing that didn’t happen. (I try to avoid the word “lie” in the very black-and-white world my preschoolers currently live in.)

My 4-year-old caught on right away. It took a few weeks of whispering in my 3-year-old’s ear before she figured it out enough to play on her own. Now she regularly talks about climbing on the roof, putting the potty on the roof, or sleeping on the roof. Along with who she played with at school and what she ate for lunch. I’m hoping the roof fascination disappears before it becomes truth.

Little nuggets of my kids’ days will appear during the game. Something they made for that day’s school project. Which teacher was on duty that day. Who was absent because they’re on vacation. Fun things that matter in my kids’ world that I love hearing from their perspective. 

I hope the tidbits about our days help my kids absorb a bit of the world their parents live in that’s outside of our home. Things about our jobs, who we ate lunch with, and how we have frustrating moments too.

In addition to the built-in bonding at our family dinner hour, our game helps teach logic. My oldest is starting to puzzle out the clues his dad and I sprinkle into our three things. That if I say I got stuck in lots of traffic, and he was among the last to be picked up, it’s probably true. He’s also getting pretty good at coming up with a realistic silly thing, and he has outsmarted us all a few times.

Let’s just hope “The Game” isn’t also teaching them how to get good at lying!

Teresa has lived in the Boston area for nearly 15 years, but remains surprised each winter when that first really cold day takes her breath away. She's most likely to be found snuggled in a blanket with at least some of these things -- books, a newspaper, a tea latte, a glass of wine, her kids and her New England-native husband who can't be convinced to move south. She lives in the Boston suburbs and dreams of a someday when she can spend the winter with her toes in the Florida sand she grew up with. Until then, she's enjoying raising kids who will tell anyone who asks, "We cheer for the Bruins, the Red Sox, the Patriots and the Florida Gators." As a former journalist who changed careers when she moved north for graduate school, Teresa is excited to return to regular writing as a Boston Moms Blog contributor.