8 Things to Teach Your Kids Before They’re 8 (That You Might Otherwise Forget)

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Don’t be like me. Don’t wake up in a cold sweat and realize you haven’t introduced your toddler to the swimming pool or taught your 7-year-old to tie her shoes. Now that I have three children and my oldest is in first grade, I’ve learned that these things don’t just happen organically. Kids don’t wake up one day knowing how to do the backstroke. So while our children should figure out many things for themselves, there are a few life skills that are on you, mom. Here are eight things to teach your kids before they turn 8:


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This one tops the list of things to teach your kids because it’s a matter life and death. So if you’re going to register for just one activity, make it swim over, say, ice skating or parkour. I don’t necessarily think you need to enroll your infant in baby swim — although it makes for nice bonding time! — but early exposure to water is important. And then real swim classes, with first-rate instructors, can happen later around age 5 or 6. Ideally, this is when your kids are also ready to dive in.

Ride a bike

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I learned to ride a bike on country roads in Maine, where the occasional pickup truck drove slowly past. My dad gave me that first important lesson on balance, but after that, the skills were mine to fine tune. But today, if you live in an urban neighborhood (or pretty much anywhere that isn’t Maine circa 1985) this one falls on your shoulders, and by the time your kid is 6 or 7. 

Tie their shoes

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As a big fan of time-efficient Velcro, I’d love to skip this one. But I imagine there will come a day when my daughter wants to lace up her cleats, or ice-skates (if only we had let her take lessons). And I don’t want her to curse her parents for never teaching her to tie a frickin’ bow. So go ahead and force the issue with a pair of lace-up sneakers around the age of 7. This is when their manual dexterity is up for the challenge.

Tell time

Sure, by the time kids need to tell time on their own, they’ll probably just look at the digital clock on their iPhones. But what about when they’re taking a timed test, or (gasp!) the battery on their phone dies. How embarrassing to be staring at the wall clock like it’s an ancient sundial. Work with them on this; a cheap analog wristwatch makes for a great birthday gift at age 6 or 7.

Understand money

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Age 5 is a good time to start a small allowance, if you’re so inclined, and to teach the fundamentals of saving and spending money. At the same time, you can teach what the actual money units are. (Nickels, not nipples, was a good first lesson in our house).

Dial a phone

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At age 4 or 5, your kids can learn to dial a phone in case of emergency. We bought a big ol’ landline just for that reason. Right now, it simply startles us once a day with telemarketer calls, but it’ll be there if we need it.

Wipe themselves

Wipe their butts, wipe their noses, wipe their milk mustaches, wipe everything. But especially the butt. At around age 4, kids should be able to handle this solo, so don’t let them be lazy. (Of course they’ll let you do this forever — they’re playing you!) Make sure they can get the job done — and done well — by kindergarten.

Make eye contact

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Another one that might get lost in the shuffle: Teaching kids to make eye contact — in addition to shaking hands and other good manners — is an important life lesson. Some precocious preschoolers will do this naturally; other shy kiddos need some encouragement and practice. If they have this down by age 7 or 8, when they’re starting to assert more independence, that extra confidence will be the boost they need.

A Maine native, Jessie migrated down the coast to Boston after college, and it’s been home ever since. In this great city, Jessie met her husband, graduated law school, played in numerous basketball leagues, worked as a marketing writer, ran the marathon, lived through several home renovations, and wrote many beginnings of many books. But of all these great adventures, she most loves the one she’s on now: on-the-go-mom to three energetic and hilarious daughters. Jessie, her husband, and their trio of little ladies live in Brookline.