Did you remember to sign those daycare forms?
And that work project with the deadline tomorrow — how is that coming along?
We haven’t had a date night in ages. No, not this weekend — we’ve got a kid birthday party to go to.
Maybe I should start working out again.
Why can’t I just keep my closet organized like those other moms on Instagram?
What about the mess you left in the kitchen last night?
Why can’t I just get it together?
Am I failing my kids by not being able to handle all this?
Am I even happy anymore?
Do I want to get out of bed today if it’s just going to feel like this?
Maybe this sounds like your mind, too.
We all go through times when it just feels like too much. You’ve got too much on your mind, and the feelings start to take over. Add in the heartbreak and tragedy that fills our news cycle, plus a global pandemic, and it all overflows. The not-good-enoughs, the pressure, the panic.
So you Google it. The internet tells you there is a clear answer to all your problems — you just need some self-care.
Self-care is great, but sometimes, in the depths of overwhelming anxiety or depression, it can feel completely out of reach. Sometimes our feelings are more than can be helped by some R&R and “me time.”
It’s easy to be cynical, to blame ourselves, and to feel like a failure. Perhaps you’ve blamed yourself for just not using your time well, or for not making time for yourself. Maybe you just don’t understand why you’re so exhausted and can’t get out of bed. Maybe your emotions leave you feeling like someone other than yourself.
We’ve all been there. Many of us are there right now. Sometimes it all gets to be just too much. You start to feel it physically. The anxiety and stress make you feel like you’re about to boil over. It’s OK to say what you’re feeling. It’s OK to stop and ask for help. It’s OK.
You’re not alone, and there are so many resources to help. It’s important to mention this to your doctor, but sometimes help just can’t wait. Fortunately, the first step toward help can be just a phone call, text, or click away. These resources are free and confidential.
National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) Helpline
Available Monday through Friday from 10 a.m. to 6 p.m. EST for free information, referrals, and support
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Crisis intervention and assistance, available 24/7. There are also hotline numbers for Spanish speakers (1-888-628-9454), the hard of hearing (1-800-799-4889), and veterans (1-800-273-8255). You can also live chat with crisis volunteers on their website at suicidepreventionlifeline.org.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) Helpline
Guidance in navigating support groups, community organizations, and other assistance for mental health needs. This helpline is available in both English and Spanish 24 hours a day.
Crisis Text Line
Send a Text message to 741741
Life support through text messaging 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Also available via Facebook Messenger at www.facebook.com/crisistextline.
Samaritans Hope Helpline
Call or Text 877-870-4673 (HOPE)
This Massachusetts-based organization offers free and confidential support for mental health crises, by call or text, 24/7.